The Grass is Always Greener…

Barry Schwartz, writing in The Paradox of Choice makes a compelling argument – to my mind – for cutting down the options.. One paragraph on the subject of life and partners grabbed my attention.

.. inevitably, you will find people who are younger, better looking, funnier, smarter, or seemingly more understanding and empathetic than your wife or husband. But finding a life partner is not a matter of comparison shopping and ‘trading up’. The only way to find happiness and stability in the presence of seemingly attractive and tempting options is to say, “I’m simply not going there’

…Knowing that you have made a choice you will not reverse allows you to pour your energy into improving the relationship that you have rather than constantly second-guessing it.

The grass is always greener – we need to learn where/when to stop looking!

22 thoughts on “The Grass is Always Greener…

  1. This takes away the silly excuses some give for leaving their spouse….like…she got too fat, or , he wasn't so good in bed, or, he used to give me more when we were dating, or ….

    Have a great weekend dude

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  2. My brother said, 'the grass is always greener where it is watered' and i replied, 'we always water it on our side – where we are'.

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  3. i like the way it is presented
    it seems that in society today it is presented that the choice is condition and always reversible and so no effort is put into actually making it work

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