I am all for defining my people connections upfront (DTRs) …… The thing about them though is that they are tricky……. Too soon, and you run the risk of permanently pulverizing some real bridges before they even get built…….. Too late, and you’re mired in the morass of the ‘just friends’ zone…..
That night we had the inevitable talk and faced the ineluctable moment of truth….. Faced with a choice she said…..
You’re a good guy but….. why does life have to be sooo difficult?
Maybe that DTR was too early…or it was a classic case of DeBee’s Law:
The refusal to define is tacit admittance that there was nothing to define in the first place or a nascent dislike of that which was to be defined.
In retrospect, she was right.. …There were too many yawning chasms that needed crossing!